Is the worry, fear or doubt you carry yours? Or is it someone else’s?

October 9, 2019

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“Sometimes the fear won’t go away, so you’ll have to do it afraid.” Unknown

Let’s talk about this quote for a minute.

Particularly – how do you do the thing you know in your heart you’re here to do BUT still carry doubt, fear, worry around it.

The first question to ask, which kind of makes sense to me, is –

Is this doubt, fear, worry mine?

What I mean by that is – Is the worry or fear truly a part of me, or did someone else plant the seed?

When I was a teenager I was a really good seamstress. My sister and I had grown up learning to sew, making our first school uniforms when we were eight. Along with my mother I designed and sewed my sister’s bridesmaid dresses (one I was to wear) + I made a wedding dress for a friend when I was 19.

Yep, back them I could sew big time. And I did it a lot!

When I finished high school I was accepted into a college with an extremely well regarded fashion design course. At the same time I was accepted into a teaching degree.

Guess which one I did?


I know right?

Why did I do teaching when I was so passionate about design and sewing?

Because my mum told me to.

I know right?

My mum always said I needed “something to fall back on”.

She also dreamt of her daughters ‘giving’ her a teacher, nurse and hairdresser – she got two of the three.

Going into teaching somehow cemented in my mind that I wasn’t a good enough sewer or designer to complete the course I was offered. When clearly I was – my design portfolio and creations got me the offer after all. But the reality is the fear and worry that grew in my heart and mind weren’t mine – they were my mothers.

And the idea that I have “something to fall back on” said more about how my Mum felt about her own life than it ever had to do with mine.

Yes going into teaching taught me great skills which I use to this day, but I will always wonder what would have happened if I stood in my power and chose the different path offered to me.

I know most of the people reading this are of a certain age. You’ve had life experiences that have caused you to doubt yourself, your abilities, the messages your heart has sent you. Today I’d like you to look deep and see if the seeds of fear were planted by you or someone else.

The reality is that it doesn’t matter who planted your seeds of doubt or fear. It is time now though to decide whether you still want those seeds to grow, for you to keep fertilising them so that they bloom into more doubt or fear – or decide that they’re weeds you can pull out without a second thought!

It’s once you pull out the weeds, and give them no more thought, that you can then truly step into your life.

And then you get the chance to start all over again from a place of honesty and truth, for you and no-one else.

Sounds pretty good to me.

With much love,

Helen xx

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Helen Joy Butler - Sanctuary Creator, Elemental Space Clearing® practitioner and #HSP Warrior


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